Conflict is about human interaction and communication.  It isn't something you can throw a one-size, fits-all solution at and then hope for great outcomes.  People evolve into conflict situations for a variety of reasons.  They bring less or more skill, less or more awareness to those situations.  They bring real fear and worry to conflict.  They often avoid it until it has become the elephant the room they can't ignore.

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I take a diagnostic approach to conflict resolution. I meet the players, assess their situation, skills and knowledge, and create a plan to address the situation.  I review that plan for feedback from the people involved.  Then I and those people wade into it to have the "difficult conversations".  That may only take a few hours or a couple of days.  It may take longer.  But what will happen is that listening will improve, understanding will grow and ways to resolve the conflict will appear.  As importantly we will create a long-term solution to this conflict situation - no band-aids here.